“How does that product compare to this other one?” is one of the most frequent questions I get asked via email, so as I was working through some info products, I thought I’d write up some descriptions for you guys in case you’ve been checking some of ’em out. I didn’t use affiliate links and am just sharing my honest opinion about three products I dig, but I’m hoping to give you enough information to help you figure out if they’re for you. One of these isn’t publicly available yet, but I’ll update this post when it is. The other two are on sale for $10 and $60-125, respectively. Check it.
Product: The Problem-Solving Checklist by Neville Medhora
What you get: A gorgeous, 13-page PDF file with 10 problem-solving strategies, and a couple extra links thrown in.
What it’s like: This is that friend you really want to hang out with whenever you’ve got a problem because he’ll buy you a beer and put a positive spin on things and help you see things in a whole different light. (He’ll probably run into a bunch of people at the bar who want to talk to him, too, and he’ll invite them over to your table so you don’t feel left out.) He’s a little crazy and politically incorrect at times, but you can tell he has a huge heart so it’s very forgivable….and you always feel better after talking to him.
How to tell if you’ll dig it: Check out Neville’s blog and his autoresponder series; if you dig that and his writing style (or if you like reading Cracked), you’ll probably like this. He also has a bunch of great videos on AppSumo, but since this is mostly writing, I’m recommending the blog.
What it’s not for: If you have a huge, pressing, ongoing issue that you could spend years in therapy for, this quick and fun approach may not go deep enough. It’s a nice PDF to keep on your desktop to refer to from time to time, and I think it works really well when you know you’re being dumb and just need to snap out of it.
My experience: I got this when I was tripping out over a couple of smaller problems, and I knew that they were minor and stupid and that I just needed to look at things from a different perspective. I LOVED how gorgeous this PDF was. I was able to quickly use one of the techniques to graph out one of my problems and figure out what the REAL issue was and how to address it. I also came up with some solutions (and picked one to implement right away), figured out how the problem was helping me in other ways, and even determined what I could focus on instead. Also, it was fun.
Cost: This product isn’t actually publicly available yet, but I’ll make sure to update this post when it is. It was available for premium Mixergy members, and Andrew shared it at the most recent World Domination Summit. You can find a lot of information about it online, and maybe even someone who can teach you the process in person.
What you get: We received access to a series of 8 videos and exercises on “true mind” and “counter mind”–how to deal with your inner critic and find ways to clear your mind of false beliefs that hold you back from reaching your higher purpose. We also got some lovely beads in the mail to do the exercises with, access to a shared Google document (about 15 pages) with examples from Andrew, Olivia and various people taking the course, and even the amazing opportunity to work on the issues that arise (by emailing Olivia herself). Aside from addressing false beliefs of the counter mind, we also worked on creating true mind statements, which are sort of like affirmations, and repeating them with the beads.
What it’s like: This is that advocate you always wish you had, who has a certain purity that you can’t quite put your finger on, and who you know will always have your back. They’d turn to that bully (your biggest critic) and explain to them firmly but politely exactly why what they’re saying is wrong…and then help you rebuild your confidence without skipping a beat. Over green tea at Seven Cups (or your local equivalent). They may not have memorized parts of the Tao Te Ching, but they’re living it.
How to tell if you’ll dig it: If you have negative thoughts in your head you’d like to overcome so you can do what you’re supposed to accomplish on Earth.
What it’s not for: If you don’t want to deal with it.
My experience: I went through the videos and used this to help me with areas of my life I was usually pretty confident about, but it wasn’t until I turned around and worked through the process with an area I was really struggling with and beating myself up over that it really had a positive effect–not just in my state of mind, but in what I was able to accomplish afterwards. Working on true mind statements with the beads has given me a newfound clarity, and I bring them with me when I know I’ll be dealing with difficult situations.
Product: The Monster Manual (and Coloring Book) by Havi Brooks
Cost: $60 for the basic package, $125 for the larger one.
What you get: The basic version comes with a 15-page talking to monsters coloring book PDF (it literally has 13 monsters you can color), and a 38-page manual on talking to monsters, complete with 13 techniques for tactics on how to respond to monsters. (For example, one monster is the “You don’t want to fail horribly and fall on your face LIKE YOU DID LAST TIME DO YOU REALLY WANT THAT TO HAPPEN AGAIN DO YOU DO YOU DO YOU?” monster. This is followed by a strategy to ‘talk to’ this monster (or have a mediator you invent do so on your behalf), and potential monster responses and how to go from there.
The advanced version (or “extra destuckifying package) also comes with a collection of Havi’s posts on talking to monsters (a 73-page PDF), an mP3 (67 minutes) and chatroom transcript (10 page PDF) from a teleclass on this topic, and an ebook (24-page PDF) of useful stuff to know about monsters, complete with a glossary and 3 case studies.
What it’s like: This is your friend who wears funny hats and costumes and is really crazy and creative and sweet. She’s a natural mediator who will help you when you’re feeling ridiculously sensitive, to the point where you want to curl into a little ball in a closet and rock back and forth. (She’s the one person you’ll let in, and she’ll bring you spring water an blankets and cushions and boas and semi-precious stones and shiny things to look at, and give you a hug when you cry and compassionately help you deal with what ails you.
The approach is playful and experimental. Basically, Havi uses monsters as a metaphor for the negative voices in your head that cause pain and keep you stuck. The focus is on the intention behind the ‘monsters,’ as they actually often mean well and want to protect you from something or keep you from getting hurt but are going about it in the wrong way. Instead of trying to kill them or disappear them, you listen to them and try to understand them and explain to them why their approach is ineffective. They usually morph into something else or go away on their own.
How to tell if you’ll dig it: If you like having conversations with people who aren’t there in your head, or different aspects of yourself, and are into being experimental. If you’re a fan of non-violent communication, especially with yourself. If you like some of Havi’s other posts on monsters (like this one: http://www.fluentself.com/blog/personal/the-negotiator-the-monster-and-the-scribe/) or her other work in general. If you like plays and costumes. If you are a highly sensitive person.
What it’s not for: If you have a lot of rage and want to smash all of your monsters. If you want something very practical that doesn’t involve a lot of emotional processing. If you’re short on cash.
My experience: I received the destuckifying version as a present from a friend, as I’d been looking at it for a long time but thought the price was quite high. I am very grateful for the gift, as I probably wouldn’t have bought it and really got quite a bit out of it. The audio took me through the process of creating a force field and feeling safe enough to have conversations with my monsters. (You put them in a separate monster room and visualize a mediator who can negotiate with them on your behalf.) I felt that the process helped me understand the reasoning behind why a particular issue came up for me, and was able to negotiate a way to help mitigate the worst case scenario that could happen, while asking the monster to ease up on an approach that would’ve made it inevitable. I think this is a good way to deal with pervasive, ongoing emotional issues, but I’m not sure it’s practical for day-to-day problems, and I still think the price is a bit steep. However, if you dig Havi’s monster posts and want to test it out for yourself, it’s a really gentle (dare I say fun?) way to deal with what can be a pretty painful process.
Feel free to share your comments on these courses or any others in the comments! (Remember, while criticism is fine, rude comments will be deleted.)